Dr.
Umar Khan
Dr.
Khan belongs to a Lahore based Think Tank.
23-8-26
The Prison of Public Opinion: Mental Slavery and the Pakistani
Youth “Log kya kahengey?”
"Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but
ourselves can free our minds." Marcus Garvey
The air in Pakistan is thick with an unspoken
question, an invisible judge that sits in the corner of every room and whispers
into every ear. It is the relentless, suffocating whisper of “Log kya
kahengey?”—What will people say? This is not a fleeting concern but a pervasive
cultural anxiety, particularly potent among the nation's youth. It dictates
career choices, marriage partners, social interactions, and even personal
aspirations. This obsession with public perception, however, is far more than a
simple social quirk. It is a deeply embedded psychological affliction, a form
of mental slavery that cripples originality, fosters chronic stress, and
prevents a generation from realizing its true potential. Liberating the
Pakistani youth from this internal prison requires not a change in law, but a
radical, internal rebellion to reclaim their minds and their futures.
To understand the profound damage caused by
the "log kya kahengey" phenomenon, one must first appreciate its
nature as a severe and dysfunctional need for approval and validation. It is
not a healthy desire for social harmony, but a pathological panic response.
Psychologically speaking, when an individual secretly believes themselves to be
fundamentally flawed and inferior, they do not seek praise for its own sake;
they seek evidence to disprove a core negative belief about themselves.
Validation becomes a temporary anesthetic for a chronic wound, a fleeting
reprieve from the pain of self-doubt. This creates a vicious cycle, as the
relief is short-lived and the dosage must be constantly increased. As one
compliment fades, the hunger for another intensifies, leaving the individual in
a state of perpetual insecurity.
This pathological need for validation
functions as a form of internal slavery. It is a voluntary servitude to an abstract
court of public opinion, where you are both the prisoner and the warden. The
youth, in this state, willingly surrender their liberty, freedom, and the right
to make autonomous decisions. They live their lives as if perpetually facing a
camera, performing a role scripted by the expectations of others rather than
living authentically. The greatest tragedy lies in their focus; this immense
pressure is often exerted by people who are, in the grand scheme of their
lives, utterly unimportant. This anxious preoccupation with the judgments of
the masses condemns them to a life of high stress often leading to violent behavior
and outlook, ultimately ending in emotional and personality disorders. This also
extinguishes the very spark of originality that could lead to innovation and
greatness. It is a prison with a door that the prisoner is actively holding
shut, punishing themselves with anxiety, shame, and depression for failing to
meet arbitrary standards.
This obsession with
validation may have contributed to British Secretary Ms. Braverman’s remark
that “They [British-Pakistani men] see women in a demeaned, illegitimate way,
and pursue an outdated and frankly heinous approach to behavior”—not to mention
the comments made by Afghan government official Hamdullah Mohib. Unfortunately,
despite the pain these statements cause, I must confess that they are not
entirely baseless.
The root cause of this epidemic is a profound
lack of self-esteem, a direct consequence of deep-seated flaws within our
societal fabric. An individual who constantly seeks external approval is, by
definition, insecure and distrustful of their own judgment. This insecurity
cripples their ability to forge a positive, healthy personality. They are
trapped in a perpetual state of comparison and mental competition with others,
which breeds jealousy and undermines the natural human drive to create. The
Good Lord created us to create, not to compete. This obsessive comparison,
however, effectively obliterates one of humanity's greatest gifts: the ability
to be original. When all actions are filtered through the lens of "What
will others think?", the authentic self is suppressed, and the unique
contribution an individual could have made to the world is lost to a sea of
conformity.
This state of servitude renders the youth
highly vulnerable to manipulation and coercion. Those who are driven by a
desperate need to please are easily controlled by those who recognize and
exploit this weakness. They become susceptible to the agendas of
"manipulators," sacrificing their own interests and values for the
hollow promise of approval. This chronic subservience is more than just a
personal failing; it represents a significant loss of potential for the nation.
A society composed of individuals who are perpetually seeking validation is a
society that lacks the critical thinking, innovation, and resilience needed to
progress. This "voluntary servitude" leads to “mental slavery,"
a condition where the mind is so dominated by an internalized belief system of
inferiority and servitude that a person willingly accepts oppression as
natural, inevitable, or even desirable.
The parallels between this psychological state
and historical slavery are stark and instructive. While physical slavery was
institutionally abolished, with Mauritania being the last country to do so in
1981, this more subtle form of mental bondage persists. Physical slavery
imprisons the body; mental slavery imprisons the imagination. A person can be
legally free, hold a PhD, and live in comfort, yet remain a victim of this
internal enslavement if they believe their self-worth is determined by external
validation. This condition has arguably caused more human suffering, stifled
more potential, and contributed to more conflict than any other single cause.
It is a frontier of human freedom that hasn’t been sufficiently identified or
marked. Recognizing this invisible cage is the first and most crucial step toward
breaking free from it.
The path to freedom is neither easy nor
external. Emancipation from this mental slavery requires an internal
rebellion—an internal revolution that only the individual can wage. It demands
a courageous reframing of one’s internal compass. The question must shift from
"What will people say?" to "What will I think of myself?"
It requires the individual to develop the courage to tolerate the panic of
being disliked, by doing things solely for their own internal satisfaction,
even if no one acknowledges them. This internal revolution is reclamation of
self, a process of rebuilding a damaged self-esteem from the inside out, rather
than seeking external props for a shaky foundation.
This internal framework is rooted in a
powerful personal accountability. The greatest obligation a person has is to
their creator and to themselves. A responsible person is duty-bound to utilize
their talents and abilities to the maximum, making the world a better place for
everyone. The only opinion that should ultimately matter is their own. The
critical self-assessment is, "Did I live according to my ideals? Did I
perform to the best of my God-given abilities?" This is a shift from
external validation to internal integrity, from a performance for an imagined
audience to a life lived authentically. This is how potential is maximized, not
by trying to please everyone, but by striving to be the best version of
oneself, irrespective of the crowd's applause or condemnation.
The relentless pursuit of "log kya
kahengey" is, in essence, a voluntary surrender of one's most precious
gift: freedom of thought. It is a chain that is self-forged and self-applied,
making it a uniquely insidious form of oppression. As Voltaire famously noted, "It
is difficult to free fools from the chains they revere." These chains are
revered because they are familiar and, in a paradoxical way, feel safe. It is
easier to follow the path laid out by society than to forge one's own.
The
vast, untapped potential of Pakistan's youth will remain dormant as long as
they remain prisoners of an external, abstract jury. The words of Garvey and
Marley are a clarion call: "Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery,
none but ourselves can free our minds." This freedom is not a gift to be given;
it is a rebellion to be waged. It is a daily choice to value one's own
principles above public acclaim. It is a commitment to create, not compete, and
to live a life where one's worth is defined not by the fickle and often
indifferent public, but by a personal and unwavering commitment to one's own
ideals. The liberation of a nation begins with the liberation of the individual
mind. The key is in our hands; we have only to muster the courage to turn it.
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